Dating is harder than ever in 2018. Whether in a relationship or looking to find your S.O., the landscape has changed \u2013 banter happens in text rather than over a pint at the bar, both men and women have equal power, and the flirt has completely changed. So how can you make an impression from the first swipe right to your fifth wedding anniversary?\r\n\r\nYou'll also like:\r\nThe Art of Giving Good Oral \u2013 A Sex Expert Tells Us How\r\nWhat\u2019s The Right Amount of Sex Per Week?\r\nIs Sex on the First Date Ever Okay?\r\nDress appropriately\r\nBe true to your own style and comfort, but also be considerate. Before heading out for a romantic evening, a woman will spend upwards of 2 hours getting ready \u2013 it makes her feel sexy and she wants to look good for you. While she doesn\u2019t expect you to spend the same amount of time, putting on a clean, ironed shirt and leaving the baseball hat at home goes a long way. This continues past the first date, too: dress up for your wife, wear some aftershave and generally show her that you care about yourself \u2013 and, in turn, her.\r\n\r\n\r\nBe warm and open\r\nYour secret weapon in any relationship is knowing how to listen, and showing this through your body language. Lean in a little closer when your date is sharing her interests, don\u2019t interrupt or speak over her, nod and say \u2018mmhm\u2019 or \u2018aha\u2019 when you\u2019re genuinely interested in what she has to say. In counselling, we call these micro-skills, and they create a warm and open environment so the other person feels safe to open up. Combine these with mirroring her body language (lean in when she does, smile when she smiles, etc) and you\u2019ll have her loving every minute.\r\nUse modern manners\r\nManners are the first thing to go when dating today. Please and Thank You are just as important in text as they are in person. Don\u2019t wait 24 hours to respond to a woman \u2013 she knows what you\u2019re doing, another guy has done it before you and it hasn\u2019t ended well for either of them. Send a text after a date that simply says, \u2018Loved meeting you. Hope you have a nice night.\u2019 Open the door for her even if it seemingly \u2018goes against equality\u2019. Do these things because you genuinely care \u2013 not only about her feelings, but also about how you want to be perceived. It doesn\u2019t take much to be a gentleman.\r\n\r\n\r\nShare your passions (and listen to hers)\r\nSeeing a guy talk about his goals and dreams is sexy as hell. We want to hear what makes you tick, your reason for living. It can be a month-long tour of Africa you\u2019re planning, the promotion you\u2019re gunning for at the job you love, or your Border Collie, Ralph. The smile on your face as you discuss your passion makes her melt. And hearing you ask questions and show interest in hers puts the cherry on top.\r\nLet her know where she stands\r\nIf you like the woman, tell her. She\u2019ll love to hear how she makes you feel; so don\u2019t be afraid to share your feelings. Equally, she understands that sometimes the spark just isn\u2019t there (and sometimes it fades after a few years). Thanks to apps like Tinder, we\u2019re under the impression as a society that potential lovers are interchangeable. If you don\u2019t feel it, let her know. Ghosting is a waste of time for both of you \u2013 you\u2019ll receive unwanted messages asking if you want to catch up, while she wonders if you\u2019re OK and what went wrong. It\u2019s exhausting and unnecessary. Just don\u2019t do it.\r\n\r\nI\u2019m a strong believer that how you date is how you do life. If you\u2019re a genuine guy who takes care of himself, knows his manners, thanks his wait-staff and has drive (be it career or personal), then you\u2019re the kind of guy women want to be with. And of course, you should expect the same from us!\r\n\r\nFollow the above guidelines and I promise you\u2019ll be looked upon fondly \u2013 second date or not.\r\n\r\nTammi\u00a0Ireland\u00a0is\u00a0a\u00a0sex\u00a0educator.\u00a0To\u00a0enhance\u00a0your\u00a0sex\u00a0life\u00a0and\u00a0relationship,\u00a0visit\u00a0BARESexology\u00a0on\u00a0Instagram.