How much does a polar bear weigh? We’re not really sure, but we bet it pales in comparison to the crushing weight of dying alone. Not to get morbid, but in this day and age, if you aren’t nailing your swipe game, there’s a very real risk you might find out what that feels like: nowadays, you’d be hard-pressed to find a single (or married for that matter) person who isn’t on Tinder.
The key to nailing online dating begins with the first impression and here in the modern age, that means nailing the best Tinder pickup line you can think of. You need to stand out from the crowd, show a little personality and come across witty, clever and somewhat aloof.
Thankfully, we have the help of an expert: Tinder’s resident dating guru Sera Bozza, to be specific. We worked with Bozza to figure out what goes into making a good first impression, and there’s a lot to consider.
RELATED: Step one is actually to have a decent Tinder profile, so update it using our tips
Things to Consider Before Hitting Send
Whether you are an experienced Tinder pick up artist, or this is your first foray into the swipe life, it’s always a good idea to brush up on your skills. Start first by assessing your own personality and asking yourself the question; what kind of Tinder guy am I? Are you funny? Witty? Thirsty? Whatever you are, you have to own it and this will help you formulate the best Tinder opener for you.
Bozza told us that the best way to show that you’re actually interested in getting to know the other person is to:
- always use their first name, it shows attentiveness
- tailor your opener to reflect something specific from their profile
- keep it brief but engaging to move the conversation going forward
“Overusing cliched lines can be transparent and off-putting,” Bozza said. “No one wants to feel like a another name in your endless match queue.”
If the person you’re interested in has a nicely packed profile, there should be quite a few potential conversation starters on display. In saying that, not everyone has a detailed bio. For those people, a more generic opener might be enough to start the ball rolling.
Here’s what you need to consider when creating good pick up lines on Tinder.
Personalise Each Pick-Up Line
Don’t just copy and paste the same funny Tinder pick up line to 50 different people. You aren’t a telemarketer, you’re better than that, and they deserve better. Think about crafting a unique pick up line that plays off something you notice or admire in them, that only someone who has paid attention to their profile will know. This way when they read it, they know they’re copping a great pick up line created solely for them. It’s about making a match feel special.
Depth, Not Width
This probably isn’t what you think it is, but it relates to your target audience. When it comes to the best Tinder pick up lines, it pays to think of your words as a sniper not a shotgun. Rather than focusing on targeting as many people as possible, you should fixate your attention on quality over quantity, going for the best possible match for you. Don’t just swipe and message blindly.
Consider Your Audience
Don’t fire off Tinder pick up lines about steak if your match is a vegan. Tailor your introduction to suit your audience, remember the best way to make a lasting impression is to nail the first one. A simple piece of advice is to read her bio: it sounds obvious, but you’d be surprised how many guys fail to take the easy option.
What It’s Like to Be a Girl on Tinder
It goes without saying, but you should really know where and when to draw the line. Don’t push something that isn’t there. Instead, think about what it would be like to be a girl on Tinder. No doubt your Superlike cops a barrage of messages every hour, so rather than shooting off a cheesy pick up line and waiting for the kudos to roll in, your pick up line should grab her attention. What’s more, if she doesn’t respond, don’t take it to heart and definitely don’t reply. Sending two messages back to back reeks of desperation and comes across more than a little creepy. Hedge your bets and move on, remember it’s all about respect.
Best Generic Tinder Pick-Up Lines
The list of the best Tinder pickup lines is a varied one. It’s important to keep in mind, though, that cheesy pick-up lines are rarely going to get you more than a ‘haha’, which puts you right back in the hot seat. It’s better to focus on trying to get them to tell you about themselves.
With that out of the way, here’s a list of the best Tinder openers:
- Choose your perfect Sunday: Netflix binge or museum visit?
- If we were at home on a rainy morning, what would we have for breakfast? a) Pancakes b) bacon and eggs c) crèpes d) acai bowl e) something else?
- I’d tell you you’re cute, but someone else probably did that already, so you describe yourself in three emojis instead!
- If you could be any comic book character, who would you be
- Favourite meal: Thai, Italian or French?
- You’re so gorgeous that you made me forget my pickup line.
- What’s your definition of a good weekend?
- If you could be anywhere in the world, doing anything you like right now, where would you be and what would you do?
- Send me your favourite GIF so I get to know you better?
- A three-day weekend is coming up. Are you a) heading for the mountains b) going to the beach c) sleeping till noon d) partying all night?
- Favourite drink?
- This is how I’d describe you in three emojis Now you describe yourself in three emojis.
- Top three best things to do on a Saturday?
- You look like you love a good adventure! What’s one of the best ones you’ve had so far?
- Hey, I’m writing an article on the finer things in life and I was hoping I could interview you.
- If you could have any famous artist (dead or alive) paint your portrait, who would it be?
- You’re on a beach vacation when it starts raining, what do you do? a) hide under the covers with Netflix b) go to a museum c) attend a cooking workshop to learn how to make the local cuisine
- Pick a historical era, and I’ll try to come up with a pick up line related to that era.
- Tell me, what can I say to impress you?
- Cheesy chat-up line, gif war or blind date?
- If you were a dessert, what would you be?
- Two truths and a lie! Go!
- You’re seriously cute, but here’s the dealbreaker: do you, or do you not eat marmite?
Make Sure Your Profile is Ready
While it’s important to make sure you have your pick up game ready, if your profile isn’t doing its job you’re not likely to get many matches. Sorry, sometimes the truth hurts.
“A well set-up profile can do half the work for you,” Bozza said, and might even encourage them to make their first move.
“From the get-go, your focus should be on quality over quantity. This philosophy should permeate everything from how you craft profile to your swiping habits, and especially how you kick off conversations when you get a match.”
If you want to improve your profile, we’ve also delved into that topic here to give you the best possible chance at matching.
