As humans, we desire safety and adventure. When in a long-term relationship, those two things can have trouble co-existing. It’s often the rush, the thrill of the unknown that drives people to want something… else… from their relationship. An adventure; a threesome.

Once you’re both aligned that you’d like to bring a third to the bedroom, it’s time to ask, ‘who?’. Our recommendation is not to dip your pen in the company ink, i.e. don’t bring someone you work with – or someone you know – into the bedroom. Feelings like jealousy can too easily come into play when your third is known on an emotional level.

When the three of you are all on board, it’s time to set some boundaries. This part can be a little clinical, but it’s necessary for everyone to have a good time.

First and foremost, be safe and use a condom (even for oral). It’s a non-negotiable if you want to have worry-free, fun sex.