This is a Guest Post from\u00a0BARE Sexology\r\nWhether you\u2019re diving under the sheets and between her legs on a cold winter\u2019s night, or hungrily spreading them in the back of your car as she grabs your collar and pulls you into her body, there\u2019s arguably no bad time to pleasure your woman. But how can you be a true winner at giving head?\r\n\r\nStart off slow with light touches, using your fingers first before your tongue. Don\u2019t be too centralised with your approach; kiss all over her body rather than just focusing on her clitoris. The side of the tummy (just above the appendix) is highly erogenous for most women \u2013 brush your fingers there as you make out with her pussy. Kiss her labia (the \u2018lips\u2019) and gently nibble them. Breathe her in and tell her how damn good she tastes.\r\n\r\nSlide your tongue up and down her clitoris and labia in a rhythmic motion, continuing the same pulse for some time and watch for her bodily responses. As her vagina starts to open up and self-lubricate, slide in your index finger and move it in a \u2018come hither\u2019 motion. (Don\u2019t jab. Ever.)\r\n\r\nAs she gets into it \u2013 and you\u2019ll know because she\u2019ll relax her body \u2013 increase your enthusiasm. Speed up, grab her arse, her thighs and her tits like you\u2019re hungry for her entire being. Giving head is about admiring the woman, not admiring the vagina attached to the woman.\r\n\r\nToo often, men can approach eating pussy as something to be done with trepidation \u2013 \u2018it\u2019s an unknown and if I just run my tongue around the area in the shape of the alphabet, she\u2019ll get there\u2019. She probably won\u2019t. The biggest difference between a good oral sex experience and a bad one is attitude. Dive in there and worship her pussy, her legs, her body. Grab her arse by wrapping your arms under her and pulling her into your face. Smell her, look up at her with hungry eyes and moan when you\u2019re really enjoying yourself. The more you relax her through (genuine) compliments that show your enthusiasm, the more she\u2019ll ease into it and free her mind for orgasm. Say things like, \u2018I love how your thighs tense up right when you\u2019re about to come\u2019, \u2018you taste incredible\u2019, \u2018this part of you right here is my favourite\u2019. We all have insecurities and making your girl feel good will make the experience better for the both of you.\r\n\r\nLightly bite her inner thighs, dragging your tongue along them and to her lips. Use your fingers to graze her arse and tease the area, and (hot tip) take a breather when your tongue\u2019s getting a little sore. When a woman pushes herself into your face, \u2018mmms\u2019 and \u2018ahhs\u2019, smiles and runs her fingers through your hair, it means she likes what you\u2019re doing. Keep doing it and don\u2019t move away. If you\u2019re unsure, though, ask. Communication is sexy as hell.\r\n\r\nWhen she starts to rhythmically pulse into your mouth and fingers, make your way up to the clitoris and stay there. Continue your up and down, rhythmic motion until you can feel it really swell under your tongue. Note that different women prefer different amounts of pressure on the clit \u2013 start lightly and if she pushes into, push your tongue further against her and then keep going until she comes.\r\n\r\nA good orgasm feels warm, fluid and all-encompassing for most women. We feel soft, relaxed and loving after we come, so use this time to continue the intimacy. Kiss her forehead, run your fingers up and down her back as she snuggles into that nook on your shoulder, and gently place her hand over your hard cock to show her how good pleasuring her made you feel \u2013 how much she turns you on.\r\n\r\nAsk for feedback in this moment, too. Learn what she really liked and put it into practice next time.\r\n\r\nBut most of all, enjoy yourself. Don\u2019t just give head to get head. The hottest thing in the whole world is when someone makes love to you because they adore you and are insatiably attracted to you. Give off that vibe and she\u2019ll be putty in your hands (and mouth).\r\n\r\nTammi Ireland is the woman behind BARE Sexology, a sensuality and sex education platform for the modern female.