If you’re unsure of what a cock ring is, let us explain. A cock ring is a ring-shaped sex toy, that goes around the shaft (or shaft and balls) of the male genitals to apply pressure. This pressure is pleasing to some people, as it can make erections feel harder. This added pressure and constriction also enhances the sensitivity of the penis, which should be enough to explain why people like it.

If we’ve got you hooked (or you’ve skipped through to this point, welcome) here are our beginners’ tips to using a cock ring. Careful now, you might just enjoy yourself.

Cock rings can come in all shapes, sizes, and materials. Stainless steel or metal rings can add a cold sensation to your sexual experience, but we wouldn’t recommend these to beginners. For your first experience, we recommend a silicone ring. This flexible and easy to clean option make the cock ring easier to take on and off if you’re not enjoying yourself, as well as easier to clean up afterwards if you are enjoying yourself. Their flexible and stretchy nature should also keep you secure, so it doesn’t fall off with a simple shake.

As with anything related to sex, sex toys, and masturbation, always use lube. Lube makes everything feel better, and more importantly, run smoother. The last thing you want is dry friction on your bits. Before sliding on your cock ring, apply a few drops of lube to the inner-ring and your shaft if necessary. This will allow for an easy, painless application of the cock ring.

When sliding on the ring, do it with a flaccid or semi-erect penis, and grow into it. If the cock ring is tight (which it should be to apply pressure) you’ll have trouble getting it onto an erect penis. From here, you can decide if you want the sex toy around your shaft or shaft and balls. Either option is perfectly acceptable, and it’s totally up to you. Your penis, your rules. You’re looking for that pleasant tight feeling without pain. If it hurts, it may not be right for your size.

Like with any part of the body, restricting blood flow is a big no-no. Doing to can cause pain and even tissue damage, so remember to take regular breaks, and do not use the sex toy for more than 20 to 30 minutes at a time. Taking off the cock ring should be easier than getting it on, and be sure to use lube to simplify the whole process.

Finally, the most important part of using a cock ring is to enjoy using it. If you’re not into it, it’s okay to take a break. Pay close attention to what sensations feel best, and from there you can take your sex drive into top gear!