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12 Days of XXX-Mas: How to Spice Up the Holiday Season

The Silly Season is well and truly upon us, so why not get festive by adding a touch of holiday spice to your sex life? Kind of like a sexy advent calendar, I’ve rounded up twelve ever-so-naughty and extra nice ideas for you to unwrap over the twelve days of XXX-Mas.

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On the first day of XXX-Mas, my lover kissed me under the mistletoe…
Bring back the make-out session by bringing out the mistletoe. Kissing isn’t just fun and romantic, but it can also relieve some of that holiday-induced stress and anxiety. When you get your smooch on, your cortisol levels drop meaning your stress drops with it. Plus, the ultimate trio of mood-boosting hormones – oxytocin, dopamine and serotonin – are released which ultimately enhances your intimate bond and connection. The perfect way to begin the holiday season. Don’t have any mistletoe on hand? Get cute with it and hang up a sprig of something like rosemary instead. Trust me, it’ll be irresistible.

On the second day of XXX-Mas, my lover teased me slowly…
There’s nothing sexier than a slow build-up paired with sensation play. Entice your lover’s senses by blindfolding them and using a soft feather tickler to encourage them to get out of their busy mind and tune in to their body through the subtle sensations. Then explore different types of sensations like leather straps or ice to really make them shiver with anticipation.

On the third day of XXX-Mas, my lover gave me a sensual massage…
Take it in turns or simply treat your lover to a yummy sensual massage. Take your time to slowly relax them and soothe those tired muscles. Make it extra sensual with some warm body oil or by using a body-safe massage candle for the ultimate indulgence.

On the fourth day of XXX-Mas, my lover sent me some saucy nudes…
Seduce both your lover and yourself by starting up a sultry sexting session with some holiday-themed nudes. Pair them with some detailed descriptions of all the ways you’d like to treat them the next time you see each other to really spice things up.

On the fifth day of XXX-Mas, my lover licked my candy cane…
Regardless of which hemisphere you’re in, play around with temperature play and add a chilly element to your blowjob by having your lover suck on some ice prior to giving you a blowjob and get ready for some irresistible tingly sensations.

On the sixth day of XXX-Mas, my lover made me nice and frosty…
The gingerbread house isn’t the only thing needing a little frosting these holidays. Sweeten up your sex life by taking the icing – or whipped cream, chocolate sauce, anything lickable, really – out of the kitchen and into the bedroom. Decorate your lover with your frosting of choice and take delight in slowly, sensually licking it off their body.

On the seventh day of XXX-Mas, my lover put me on the naughty list
After the sweetness of day six, get a little spicier by exploring with some spanking in the bedroom. Perhaps try some role play with some light punishment for your partner who has been on the ‘naughty list’ this year. Play around with spanking their booty with your hand, a leather whip or even a flogger.

On the eighth day of XXX-Mas, my lover rolled the dice…
Switch up your go-to moves by grabbing some fun sex dice and take turns to roll them and reveal new places and ways to touch and tease one another. This is a game that’s sure to end in a satisfying win for all involved.

On the ninth day of XXX-Mas, my lover bought me a new pleasure tool…
In the spirit of gift-giving, why not take your lover on a fun date to a sex shop and pick out a new vibe or sex toy you’ve been wanting to try out. Then, complete the evening by taking it home for a test drive.

On the tenth day of XXX-Mas, my lover watched me pleasure myself…
Show and tell, anyone? There’s something very hot about watching your lover turn themselves on. Plus, it’s a fun way to learn what they like when it comes to pleasure. Put on a show for one another and watch things get steamy.

On the eleventh day of XXX-Mas, my lover tied me up…
Get ready to open your most favourite gift of all, your lover. Explore with some beginners shibari, or simply tie them up to the bedhead for a seductive treat. With their hands tied safely up, you can take your time to tease them, building up the pleasure and edging them to the point of total bliss.

On the twelfth day of XXX-Mas, my lover unwrapped me…
Now that you’ve been tied up, why not try being unwrapped instead? As you’re wrapping the last presents underneath the tree, save some ribbon and surprise your partner by wrapping yourself up as their holiday gift. Maybe even attach a cute card sharing how much fun you’ve had with them this year to make them truly melt before they have the pleasure of unwrapping you.

These sexy tips will have you ending the year on a high and feeling full of festive cheer and dripping with desire. But don’t let the fun stop there, revisit this list and your faves well into the new year. Happy XXX-Mas! Now go get your ho-ho-ho on!


Eleanor Hadley is a Sensuality Coach and Sex Educator, specialising in & sensual movement and embodied lap dance. Through 1:1 coaching, group programs, retreats, workshops, writing and speaking, Eleanor is passionate about helping you to enhance your sex life and elevate your relationships.

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Eleanor Hadley

Eleanor Hadley is a Sensuality Coach and Sex Educator, specialising in & sensual movement and embodied lap dance. Through 1:1 coaching, group programs, retreats, workshops, writing and speaking, Eleanor is passionate about helping you to enhance your sex-life and elevate your relationships. The Sensuality Academy Podcast is where Eleanor shares juicy gems from her own life, stories of clients' success along with tangible techniques to help you discover your sense of self-love, cultivate self-intimacy and boost your self-esteem.