Fellas\u2019 you might want to prepare yourselves for this one- you may fall on some hard truths, some good Lol\u2019s, or even a realisation that maybe, just maybe, and you are your own worst wingman. As a female and a therapist I\u2019ve heard from multiple men baffled as to why they can\u2019t move past a handful of dates into something steadier with the girl they have feelings for. Sometimes it just comes down to the simple things like off putting habits. Ironically, for many couples once they\u2019re loved up, those annoying little habits can be seen as cute or endearing. Addition to this, many men may be unaware culprits of unattractive traits and not know they actually overshadow the fabulous qualities that make you a catch.\r\n\r\nThink of the list like a \u2018Suggestion Box\u2019 and remember this article is to help you have a date not turned off in the short term, but a partner turned on for the long term. \r\n\r\n \r\n1. Stinginess\r\n\r\n\r\nadj.\u00a0stin\u00b7jee,\u00a0stin\u00b7gi\u00b7er, stin\u00b7gi\u00b7est\r\n\r\n"Cheapness, tightness or whatever you want to call it is as unattractive as someone clipping their toenails on the train."\r\n\r\nFinances in a relationship can always feel a little awkward, especially with the first few dates where you\u2019re both fumbling for your visa card, or the guy is feeling the old school pressure of footin\u2019 the bill each time (No, an evening at a Michelin star restaurant shouldn\u2019t leave you eating tinned spaghetti until pay day). While the chivalrous tradition can lighten the back pocket, or the mutual \u2018I\u2019ll pay, no I\u2019ll pay, no I\u2019ll pay\u2019 is kinda sweet, what\u2019s not, is when the guy just sits back and doesn\u2019t pay, at all. In addition to the free rider, what\u2019s as unattractive is when the guy divvies up the bill down to each drink, each side, and who ate a larger portion of the shared dessert (this only flies if before dating this financial arrangement had already been agreed upon).\r\n\r\nI\u2019m not suggesting that on every date the guy needs to pay at all, in fact, I\u2019m pretty sure we have moved past this old fashioned idea of dating to a more equal taking turns on date night. However, the trait I\u2019m referring to is the guy who makes a bathroom run when the bill is served, makes a phone call at the cash register, walks over to mates when buying drinks at the bar and continually leaving your girlfriend to pay. If this is you, chances are, she will not only stop shouting but stop talking, and leave you with a bill for one. \u00a0If you\u2019re reading this thinking \u2018yeah but she never asks for money, or always seems happy to pay\u2019 ask yourself, \u2018hang on, have I ever actually offered to chip in\u2019 or \u2018when was the last time I bought dinner\u2019. While I don\u2019t think money talks, I do think it walks- so keep this in mind if you\u2019re generosity doesn\u2019t shine bright on date nights.\r\n\r\n \r\n2. Bad hygiene\r\n\r\n\r\nOkay this one is a no-brainer. If you\u2019ve ever had your partner ask \u2018when was the last time you showered,\u2019 this heads up Is for you. \u00a0Bottom lie- bad hygiene Is a sure fire way to not getting laid. Ever. Sure, coming in from the footy oval, work site, weights room or surf is completely justifiable, and often that musky\/sweaty scent that we crave. The bad hygiene I\u2019m referring to is when you\u2019re going out to meet her parents, en route to a wedding, or just spending time together and you\u2019re in unwashed clothes, have remnants of last night\u2019s dinner through your cave beard or just haven\u2019t brushed your teeth, its. unattractive. Sorry if I\u2019m blunt on this one, but I think it\u2019s straight forward. Don\u2019t excuse your two-day funk for your pheromones. We know the difference. \r\n\r\nP.S. - this applies to having clean bed sheets too.\r\n\r\n \r\n3. Hitting up Tinder, while on a Tinder date\r\n\r\n\r\nDo your date the courtesy of ending the night politely yet quickly, if you\u2019re too busy swiping through your other options. It\u2019s the offline equivalent of taking a girl out for a drink only for her to sit back awkwardly and listen to you hit on the waitress serving you. It\u2019s not only irritating but disrespectful to the woman who took the time out to end time with you. \r\n\r\n \r\n4. Fade out\r\n\r\n\r\nIf you are the type of guy who does not reply to text messages asking about your day, not return a phone call because you couldn\u2019t be bothered, or simply only get in touch when the timing suits you- don\u2019t be surprised if she\u2019s gone MIA. This is perhaps one of the most irritating dating traits. If you\u2019re keen, don\u2019t treat her mean. That idea was left in the nineties alongside the excuse that you had no phone coverage. We can all get a little lazy with communication and its totally okay to get caught up \r\n\r\n \r\n5. Not Listening\r\n\r\n\r\nOkay now it might seem like I\u2019m taking a cheap shot here or being gender specific but I think it\u2019s fair to throw this in the mix as a trait that will most likely put any suitor off. \u00a0I\u2019m not suggesting Deep and Meaningful convo\u2019s every morning and debates on politics and philosophy come sun down each day; I\u2019m referring to is just plain and simple active conversation. Us women love a good yarn, and especially one which involves emotive content, stories about our day or get to know each-other \u00a0Q&A\u2019s. But more importantly, we, like most humans, just like to be heard and acknowledged. And, we will notice mid conversation when your attention is somewhere else. if you don\u2019t feel like engaging in a dialogue which involves listening skills, then disengage yourself form the conversation and come back to it when we have your full attention.\r\n\r\n \r\n6. Leaving The Toilet Seat Up\r\n\r\n\r\nEasy one, just remember to do it. Oh and while you\u2019re at it, clean your beard shavings off the basin sink.